Linked into the haystack
Filed under: Success at WorkRelationships make the world go ’round, and it’s wonderful to make new friends and contacts. And it’s really great when you find that needle in a haystack — a new contact who changes your business or your life. Such an encounter might be a once-in-a-lifetime event. No one’s been able to figure out how to reliably trigger the unique circumstances that bring two people together, or even how to identify the special characteristics that combine to make a valuable new relationship.
Here are the last five messages people sent me when asking me to join their LinkedIn networks, in the hope that we might make magic, or even that we might just enjoy hanging out together:
- I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
- I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
- I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
- I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
- I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
Contact-management software and social networks promise to help us develop tons of contacts so we can mine them for personal benefits. Like job boards, the technology that makes all this possible is the data base. And as soon as we pick up that tool — the data base –, we forget everything we know about human psychology and we turn up the volume. Volume, quantity, sheer numbers, the more the better — my network has more people in it than yours, whoo-wee!
In my 30 years working in the world of technology I’ve learned that as soon as a data base is thrown at a problem, the the original objective goes right out the window and the new objective is to build the size of the data set.
I’d like to add you to my professional network on LinkedIn.
The data base on my computer that’s called my e-mail client sees that same data in new records again and again, day in, and day out. Like the LinkedIn data base, my e-mail data base doesn’t care; it processes all records with speed and aplomb.
This is a plea to everyone who sends me invitations to LinkedIn. Stop. The hype has turned LinkedIn into a haystack full of needles, each asking us to find them. I get so many invitations to join people’s networks that I don’t even open them unless I recognize the name. The subject line, “Invitation to connect on LinkedIn” is now in my e-mail rules, and it leads to the junk bin.
What astonishes me is people I know who have 500+ links in their networks. I won’t join those, either. What’s the point? Am I impressed with your legions of data base records? Why would I waste my time with an invitation to add value to your network when you don’t take the time to send me a personal note? If you have so many good friends, the only reasonable conclusion I can draw is that you are either a deity or someone with low standards.
I appreciate LinkedIn. It provides a pacifier to ambitious fools who are unwilling or afraid to communicate with me. LinkedIn makes it easy to channel those people into my junk-mail bin.
So, who do I accept links from? People I know and respect. People referred from those I know and respect, who have some characteristic that interests me or overlaps with my own. Most important, from people who have something to say to me that is interesting or potentially useful.
So, thank you, LinkedIn, for creating a place where cows may gather and wait. It makes it easier for others among us to open the door to people worth meeting.