Have you ever see those old newsreels of American baseball games? All of the spectators were dressed to the nines. Compare that to what we see today. People don’t respect themselves in the same way. It is as if they go to great strides to dress down, sloppily, or to follow the latest fashion trends.

For example, adult men wearing baseball caps backwards and indoors, failure to comb their hair, and wearing dress shirts outside of their trousers. Adult women showing inappropriate bare skin, undergarments, and tattoos in an office setting or in public. In the United States, there is a general lack of respect and civility for other people. We convey that by how we dress. Sadly, the standard has declined in epic proportions.

I watch “Charlie Rose,” and frequently see well-known people dressed as if they didn’t care. Obviously, many do make the effort to dress well. Years ago, on television, men wouldn’t appear wearing a baseball cap and jeans. Perhaps the rich are different than us, but we don’t even see “Sunday Best” in places of worship any longer.

You and I both come from similar ethnic backgrounds: Greek and Italian, respectively. I was taught that you respected the other person by how you dressed. I also believe that corporations need to understand that the potential applicant is also a potential client.

We may say “Don’t judge the book by its cover.” However, if you were applying for a position, and the hiring authority was dressed in jeans and a tee-shirt, what message does that convey on a conscious or subconscious level? For me, it is one of disrespect and immaturity.
Regardless if the other person(s) are very good at their respective jobs. Or the company is well-known and respected.

Many years ago, it happened to me. I couldn’t take the gentleman seriously when he was dressed as a teenager. Perhaps that showed a lack of tolerance on my part; however, it was the perception. He was too casual in dress, and it permeated our following discussion, along with my impressions about his company.

Work is not a playground or our homes. It is curious to watch shows such as “Mad Men” to see what was acceptable back in the 1960s compared to now. If you walk into a McDonald’s, you see the staff dressed very neatly and with ties in many instances. It sends the message that they have self-respect and high regard for their customers. Despite earning minimum wage, they display a much higher standard than we see in “Casual Corporate America.” Because wouldn’t we expect jeans and tee-shirts at the most famous fast food restaurant in the world? They don’t have to sell us anything except the food, but they go the extra mile.

The adoption of the casual dress code, in my opinion, has led to a decline in how we interact and do business. The fact that a candidate has to clarify what is acceptable before an interview is very interesting. That he or she has to explain themselves during the discussion is also disturbing. Or that he or she is made to feel uncomfortable because they showed respect to the other party, and it was not reciprocated.

I understand that many companies have minimal client contact, and want to make their workers comfortable. But what happened to common sense? A company is selling themselves in these instances. Shouldn’t they raise their game accordingly? You preach to respect the candidate. For me, this is a prime example when it is not followed.

Two books that should be required reading for any new graduate are yours, along with “Dress for Success” by John Molloy. Being respectful shouldn’t be penalized. We all need to recognize that being different than the masses is not always a bad thing.

Thank you.

Steve